Module 1
IN THIS MODULE
“How safe you feel with someone can be seen by how often you fight with them.” - Aaron Weits
Conflicts are created with our differences bump up against each other.
Life Cycle of dealing with differences:
Acknowledging - We are going to have some conflict in our relationship and that's not a bad thing.
Accepting - Realizing your partner truly is different than you.
Adjusting - This is the 30 year process of marriage.
Appreciating - After a lifetime together you can say “I’m really glad we are different.”
Oftentimes our conflict is not with our partner but with the little image of them inside our head that has been created over time.
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On a scale of 1 to 10 - how comfortable are you fighting with one another?
Pause: Where do you find yourselves in the life cycle of dealing with differences?
In what areas has avoiding conflict inadvertently created more conflict in your life?
Pause: What’s the little version in your head of your spouse look like?